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I love to read, write, play pool & help others. I love being with my 3 blessings! I have a gorgeous daughter, Meggan~23 and 2 handsome sons. Brian~20 and Joshua~16. I wouldn't be anything without my babies. They're my greatest accomplishment! 
I pray my words, pictures, and what I post about give you encouragement and help inspire you to love deeper and believe there is a life out there for you. You need to have faith and believe in YOU. 
I married a Soldier so I was a Military Wife for 17 yrs. and now we're divorced. I am part German, Irish, English, and Ukraine. Trying to focus on my writing. I'm working on my Memoir and Suspense Romance Novels. I want my story of abuse and my addictions  to help other woman and teens. I went through a lot of trauma growing up and still found joy and I know you can too!

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Giving is the key to Living

Every day is a reason for giving and giving is the key to living. So let us give ourselves away, Not just today but every day, and remember, a kind and thoughtful deed Or a hand outstretched in a time of need Is the rarest of gifts, for it is a part, Not of the purse but of a living heart. And he who gives of himself will find True joy of heart and peace of mind.

Monday, January 6, 2014

14 Ways To Create The Best Relationship Of Your Life

Ask Joy: Anger & Abuse | LOVE AND RESPECT (NOW)


Change is the essence of life. When we are in a place of feeling lost, scared, rejected or left behind this is the Universe meddling so we don't settle into a place that is too small for us. We may not know our next destination and we may not feel as if we wanted to leave where we were but move on we must when we are called to do so. Stand tall to this challenge. It is worth your effort and growth. What we learn, if we are determined, is that we all have the power to get up and move on. Sometimes it may look or feel impossible but it is not. It is in us. There is not a better feeling than proving to yourself that you have the staying power and tough-mindedness to get up and keep walking. There is so much life out there and so many amazing people and opportunities waiting to enter to bring you love and new life..higher levels of love and life than what you have had before. As you love yourself and you find the elegance within you that will hold you strong, you can stand tall, know your worth and count on yourself to make it through. Giving up is an option but it will get you nowhere. To be tough-minded is to be deliberate about making your life the life YOU want and deserve to have! Love yourself.

                                                                                                                                Sherrie Cambell

Love Junkie

There are some books you don’t want to read but you must read. This is one of them. In this memoir, Rachel Resnick plummets into the depths of addiction–in this case, love, sex and fantasy—as powerful as any drug an addict may inject to dull the threat of long submerged memories rank with fear and pain.

Rachel Resnick and her beloved parrot., Lima.

What is a love junkie? “You’re a love junkie,” Resnick says, “if you have a core of neediness and dependency that’s waiting to grasp onto someone. You want someone to rescue you, take care of you–the way your parents should have (and probably didn’t). You have a big gaping hole that the wind howls through, and that distorts our perceptions of the world and especially of the destructive lovers we choose. Love junkies aren’t healthy.”
                                                              "Get up"
When under pressure, life teaches us who we really are and who others are. Do you take the easy way out, quit and scapegoat others to get what you 
want? Or do you stand up, fight for what you believe in, protect your supporters and put action behind your faith? Pressure really lets us know who we are and who others are. This is when we get to see the "real" person underneath. Pressure is what life is about and withstanding it, doing the hard work and taking the longest road up that mountain is what creates a champion. Taking the low road, the easy way out and living a low life is for cowards. There are those who we find out are exactly this way but we never could have seen it until the pressures of life hit. It can be quite shocking to see that what you believed about someone could not have been further from the truth but pressure will reveal it all...the true character of a person. Persistence, dedication, perseverance, determination, rising up to meet your challenges and living the belief that this Universe is abundant enough to provide you all you need is what good character is all about. It is not about quitting, hurting others and running away. It is about standing up, going at your challenges ready for whatever pressure they bring. If you get knocked down, get UP! Get up and get up and get up again. Put action behind your faith and this Universe will respond with more abundance then you could ever fathom.

"Something More"

Why do I do the things I do,
when I know how much it hurts you.
Though you are on my mind,
my mind splits in twos.
Half is for me and half is for use.
Yet, I know the difference between right and wrong.
When I'm on it.
What's wrong is right and what's right is wrong.
DAMN addiction is strong.
Stronger than friendship, stronger than love.
Some say the way out,
is in a sign from above.
I watched my sign from above,
fly away,
 on the wings of a dove.
I believe the way out comes from within.
Within ourselves to find something more.
More than the lying,stealing and cheating,
something to end the souls constant beating.
Not only did I find something in reading,
I found more,
 in writing.

For anyone like me.
I hope you find your something more.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Respecting a Difficult Spouse

by Steve and Cindy Wright

“Rejoice whenever you face trials in your marriage, knowing that even though it hurts right now, as your faith is tested by these troubles, you are developing perseverance. As you persevere in love, you will grow increasingly more mature in heart and mind, and God’s beauty will be made complete in you.” (Paraphrase of James 1:2-4)

The following is a true-life testimony written in the book, Because I Said Forever: Embracing Hope in an Imperfect Marriage (by Deb Kalmbach and Heather Kopp). It’s a book we HIGHLY recommend! Even though it’s written from a woman’s perspective, there’s a message that both women AND men can benefit from reading.
(Steve) will put a man’s spin on it afterwards to help husband’s relate to it also.
In this one particular part of the book, the author begins by saying that she used to think of her husband, Larry, as a “complete jerk.” She says that he’s been “verbally abusive, a problem drinker, arrogant beyond belief, and an absentee dad to the children he had with his first wife.”
She claims that he didn’t help out in doing anything around the house in any way. He even told her to get a part-time job so she could hire someone to do whatever it was she wanted him to do. She goes on to say:

Be Thankful

Be thankful for every chaos chaser who causes you heartbreak. They are sure to bring you stress, uncertainty, lack of clarity and heartbreak. However, they are gifts. They come into your life so YOU can use THEM. The heartbreak caused by them comes into your life to reveal another layer of who you are to yourself, and then it leaves. The purpose is to shake you up and tear you apart at your core so you can see where you are still over-doing, over-caretaking and under-caring for yourself. These heartbreaks reveal to you your personal obstacles and emotional habits that you need to transform and conquer. These people will break your heart wide open, for the divine purpose of you being able to let the new light in. The hurt they cause can make you so desperate and out of control that you have no choice but to completely change your life. You have to take it on the chin like a champ, stand up, walk elegantly away and leave. You must have enough self-love and respect to know when it is time to walk away and never ever look back again. Once these people reveal themselves you finally get to see who they really are and who they have always been lurking as character underneath the façade. When they let this leak, your heart will break but this is your saving grace. The heartbreak is your mirror of where you need to heal. Did you love too innocently? Did you take them at face value? Did you have intuitions you ignored? Did you do too much for them? Did you love too much? Now take the questions, answer them, learn, grow and change.
                                                                                                                                   Sherrie Cambell