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I love to read, write, play pool & help others. I love being with my 3 blessings! I have a gorgeous daughter, Meggan~23 and 2 handsome sons. Brian~20 and Joshua~16. I wouldn't be anything without my babies. They're my greatest accomplishment! 
I pray my words, pictures, and what I post about give you encouragement and help inspire you to love deeper and believe there is a life out there for you. You need to have faith and believe in YOU. 
I married a Soldier so I was a Military Wife for 17 yrs. and now we're divorced. I am part German, Irish, English, and Ukraine. Trying to focus on my writing. I'm working on my Memoir and Suspense Romance Novels. I want my story of abuse and my addictions  to help other woman and teens. I went through a lot of trauma growing up and still found joy and I know you can too!

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Loving Ourselves First

  If someone leaves you and you just can't deal with being alone, that's the first clue that you don't love yourself. We get into relationships and give our all to it and nothing to ourselves. I mean it's OK to be upset and miss him for awhile but not long. It's good to give and love but you need a healthy amount. You need to come first to yourself. If your constantly thinking about when he's coming home and you hate when he's away from you, that's not healthy. It's ok to miss him but not be so obsessed over when he's coming back so you can feel at one with each other again. 

 If he breaks up with you and you can't eat, sleep, or think without him than that's not healthy. You don't love yourself enough to know that it was just meant to be and there's nothing you can do to change his mind. Breakups are the most painful because that person is choosing to not be with us anymore. We end up thinking, "what is wrong with me?" "Why won't anyone stay with me?" We gave so much of ourselves that there's nothing left for us. Once we're out of those relationships, we're left with ourselves. We need to learn how to nurture ourselves and understand that that wasn't only relationship left in the world. To have healthy love we learn that we have to love ourselves in order to have healthy love with someone else. 

 That time alone is perfect for you to focus on what you need to change in a relationship because we have flaws and things we need to change. You can read self help books. They help you see what you need to do more or less. I read a lot books and learned. You can't change overnight but at least you recognize your faults and you learn what you need to change. It helped me a lot see the things I was doing wrong. Even though you kind of know, it still helps you and you will notice things and grow from it. You deserve to receive as much as you give. Don't loose yourself in a relationship and only focus on giving him love and attention. You have to love yourself and learn how to nurture yourself.

                                                                                                                                          Lisa Palmer