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I love to read, write, play pool & help others. I love being with my 3 blessings! I have a gorgeous daughter, Meggan~23 and 2 handsome sons. Brian~20 and Joshua~16. I wouldn't be anything without my babies. They're my greatest accomplishment! 
I pray my words, pictures, and what I post about give you encouragement and help inspire you to love deeper and believe there is a life out there for you. You need to have faith and believe in YOU. 
I married a Soldier so I was a Military Wife for 17 yrs. and now we're divorced. I am part German, Irish, English, and Ukraine. Trying to focus on my writing. I'm working on my Memoir and Suspense Romance Novels. I want my story of abuse and my addictions  to help other woman and teens. I went through a lot of trauma growing up and still found joy and I know you can too!

Self-Esteem

                                           

Today woman are trying to ignore the little girl inside. She'll always be there no matter how hard we try to ignore her. Woman secretly carry pain and quilt around. They need love and attention, but mainly words that affirm their worth. Men and woman have issues in their relationship because of this. Woman need affection more and men need sex. That's man's way of giving affection though and if more woman understood that, there would be less fights. That's another topic though.

 Some woman dress to attract men's attention but they don't realize that how you dress is how you see your worth to a man. If you dress provocatively, your going to attract that type of guy that sees your outside and not what's on the inside. Your not giving them the chance to see what's on the inside and leave some imagination to his mind.

 Some woman wear a lot of make-up to hide the pain behind their eyes without realizing that. Some woman starve their selves while others exercise to much because they see it as the only way to attract a man. We want to look like these air brushed models on the cover of magazines and yet, they don't look like that. They have flaws and insecurities like we do. The sad thing is that even though we know this, we still try to look like that. We know how men look at them. But we need to understand it's more than that. We look at gorgeous men but it doesn't make us not look at other guys that aren't so gorgeous. We just need to see that the guys who do want Barbie dolls, are the ones who aren't worth our time. They aren't the charming guys who have a heart full of love and compassion. They'll be the ones who cheat or abuse you.
 We worry about when we sit down and our belly hangs over our jeans. Ladies, we so need to stop this! Even skinny girls have rolls when they sit down. It doesn't make a man look past you. Guys will still see your beautiful eyes that look into that beautiful soul. When you see your girlfriends or guys who have rolls, it doesn't change the way you see them.

 Some woman stay with abusive men because these men first use their charm and compliments to get you and than they slowly tear you apart. They'll point out all your flaws so you'll think no other man will ever want you. They even tell you that your lucky to have him because he sees past all your flaws. Ladies, please take your power back. I had to and now I have a guy who does love me and all my flaws. Some of the childish and crazy things he says is cute and funny.

 To worry about our flaws and differences won't make them go away. It doesn't make them any less real. You have to notice them and love them. Their a part of you and always will be. Those flaws that you can change, if you want change them. If you feel your overweight than start exercising but do it mainly for your health. Change your lifestyle and eat healthy and exercise. Exercise really does produce more serotonin in the brain an therefore makes you happier. I have serious issues with depression and it has helped just like taking an anti depressant would. It gives me more energy and I just feel so much better!

 We view ourselves from a different perspective than guys. We will always see the worst and be our own worst critic. Think about how many boyfriends you had that has told you that you look better or just as good without make up. They want the light on when we make love. Why? Because they think we're beautiful and sexy. We need to have that confidence in ourselves and see ourselves as beautiful and sexy. That makes a man see it also. If we point out our flaws to them, they will see it. Enjoy being a sexy woman!

 Look at the guys with big woman. Look at how the bigger woman wear shorts or spaghetti strap shirts and they still look good to us right? When you look at plus size models, your first thought maybe, ummmm...but take another look. She actually looks good and her confidence makes her look even better.  Her smile even makes her look great. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that your beautiful and sexy.

 Behind all the make up, skimpy clothes, polished nails, painted smiles, and jobs that make woman feel worthwhile, are actually a bunch of pain, heartache, and insecurities. We hide behind many different masks. 

 Like with men, your either distrustful of men or you idealize a man's attention as the epitome of fulfillment. You may be afraid to be alone. You could have a lot of men or woman in your house or bed but it won't stop you from feeling alone. If you come to know God, you can be alone but you won't be lonely. We try to fill that emptiness inside us with drugs, alcohol, food, sex, and money. That's why with sex, drugs, and all those we want more and more. It'll never be enough because God is the only one that will fill that void. 
                                                              Lisa Palmer
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