How to Love a Girl who Writes.

Via Kate Bartolottaon Apr 28, 2013

Much has been made of dating a girl who reads, but what of the other side of that coin?

For a girl who writes is a double-threat: she is well read, yet creates worlds of her own as well. If you find a girl who writes—find her charming, wish to court her—there are a few things you should know.

Be prepared for her to leave you.

Not for long, but there will be those moments where she’s mumbling and she gets that look in her eyes and you know you’ve lost her. An idea, a character, a song has caught hold and she must capture it; she’ll be back. Even better, she’ll come back and tell you all about it.

If you love a girl who writes, please be patient. She can walk into the library and remember exactly which shelfNeil Gaiman is tucked away on, but more often than not, she can’t find her shoes. She knows 40 different words for rain across seven different languages, but she won’t always remember to buy more milk. She’ll have a list going, but it may become cluttered with ideas and random phrases, with future book titles and character names.

Sometimes she will be late because she pulled over to jot something down in her Moleskine or had to re-write something just one more time. You’ll be glad for her attention to detail as time goes on, I promise.

Tell her, gently, when her pen chewing has left a little ink beside her mouth, and make her go outside when she’s furrowing her brow after an unsuccessful wrestling match with words. Remind her that though she loves them, there is a whole world beyond to revel in, to re-fuel and return to them restored. (Embrace her love of alliteration; it makes her happy, even if it seems a bit silly at times.)

She will not always tell you how she feels out loud.

And even if she does, trust to the fact that she’s rolled it around in her brain (and possibly her journal) for quite some time before she comes out with it. Her words are her tools, her armor. She’s best with them when she can shift and spin them on the page. In her throat, sometimes they get caught and fall out all at once—or worse—slide back down and vanish until they flow through her fingers into her next story.

She will send you a song, a sonnet or start a philosophical argument with you. It’s her way of flirting with you. It’s like the writer girl combination of a hair toss and licking her lips. Play along.

Inevitably, you will show up in her pages (hopefully when she isn’t angry with you). If you love a writer, you will be immortal. She will capture you for all time as she remembers you walking with snowflakes gently falling in your hair, or the way you looked at her right before the last time you kissed. She’ll use a turn of phrase—or an inside joke—to include you in her work.

Brush up on your Shakespeare and, please, have your own opinions. Though she’s tickled when they match her own, she’ll love the parry and thrust of a good debate. And if you want to win her heart for good, know your way around a semi-colon.

I’ll let you in on a secret: she likes her alone time.

As much as she loves you, she won’t mind when you head out adventuring on your own, so long as you return and tell her stories before she falls asleep. She loves having time to get lost in her world of words, and sometimes forgets to stop to eat, or shower or spend time with people. The world on the page is as real and important to her as the “real” world. So if she bursts into tears over her cup of Genmaicha, don’t take it personally. She finally realized how to end her story and is going to miss her characters terribly.

If you want to give her a gift, think metaphor—not cliche. Skip the roses and give her daisies. Better yet, send her some of her favorite tea or a book that made you think of her. Give her bits of stardust and remind her that life is much more than just words on a page. Remind her that some of the best stories are collaborations. Write her letters and she’ll keep them forever. Write her a sonnet and she’ll keep you as well.

If you find a girl who writes, sift through all of her scraps of paper, half-filled journals and half-drunk cups of tea and take her by the hand. Gently ask her to set aside her laptop and return to the land of the living—for at least an hour or two—to dance and play.

(After all, that’s where all the best stories come from in the first place.)

But perhaps most importantly of all, if you love a girl who writes, read.

What it Means to Love a Libra.

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How to Love a Girl Who Juices

How to Love a Girl who Writes.

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“We love the things we love for what they are.” ~ Robert Frost

A Libra longs for partnership, it is her heart’s forever-wish; but to love a Libra, you must love her completely.

A Libra will need space; she’ll need freedom to be who she is in any given moment. She wants to suffer, celebrate, hate and adore who she is. These things are always changing and often conflicting, because she’s constantly discovering new pieces of who she is.

She’ll never tell you something critical straightaway, instead she’ll sit with it until the perfect words ring true in her heart and ever-so-carefully move into her mouth. Even then, she might write you a letter. Because the intensity of her feelings can make the speaking of words such a task.

She loves words. She loves the magic they hold, the way they can free her (and so few things can).

So to love a Libra, understand that the words always matter—they are the brush strokes of her heart. She won’t lie, she’s no good at it. She won’t brag, for she holds words in too high esteem. Your words must never be cheapened through unfulfilled promises or patronization. If your speech is unkind, she’ll remember and the words will never hurt less.

She’s an artist, through and through. But a Libra, to survive in the world, must find her medium. The words, or paints, the delicate, mindful crease of a freshly-made bed—it’s all art to her. Beautiful pieces of anything. She needs objects and sounds and smells and textures to resonate with that place deep inside that says, “Yes. That’s it, now it is exactly right.” To love a Libra, you must know this.

She’ll need her art like you need your breath—without it, she will lose track of who she is.

You must watch the curve of her mouth; her lips will purse (ever-so-slightly) and when they do, you can rest assured that her mind wanders because her heart is not still. You’ll notice her eyes are far away; in that moment, you must let her go there—to the place where the words find their way to the air—but not for too long. She’s always in danger of escaping for too long.

She seeks stillness.

A Libra will love her body. She’ll hate her body too. But you must love it, you must always love it. You must look into her eyes and smile. Move her hair from her face so you can get a better look. You must touch the places that hardly get touched: her neck as she does the dishes, her collar bone as she types at her desk, her hip as you stand in line at the grocery store. You must weave the ordinary with the erotic. Slide your hands firmly over every inch of her skin as if it were the first time you’ve ever touched her. You must touch her. She’ll crave your embrace and wither without it.

She needs romance. And so many kisses.

She needs to be whisked away to see the world and she needs a comfortable home to return to.

She’ll cry. A lot. She’ll cry and you won’t know what’s wrong. She won’t tell you what’s wrong, not at first, because she might not know. There will be times when she simply needs to feel sadness, she needs to feel the struggle of being alive, even when you both don’t understand.

Whatever it is, she feels it more.

The weight of her fears, her curiosities, everything: of being human, of responsibility, of hate and violence and injustice, of beauty and lightness and breath, all of it. It frighteners her, but amazes her too. So she’ll need time and space to explore, to dance and to fall apart, because there is nothing more lovely than a Libra experiencing the world. She sees magic where others do not. She needs to believe in magic. Ferociously.

And when she finally turns 30—when the leaves are changing and she feels most herself—you’ll be mindful of her feelings; because, even if it isn’t a big deal, it is a big deal and the tears that stream for no particular reason come from a place of shame in her heart.

To love a Libra, you must celebrate; you must celebrate her, life, the amazing, the plain, everything and anything.

To love a Libra is to love the very essence of love, warts and all.

There’s a delicate balance—a perpetual tug-of-war—between feeling fierce and complete against feeling soft and frail. Always trying to reach that impossible balance, she never quite knows who she is.

To compensate for the not-knowing she’ll please everyone around her. She’ll accommodate others and fix situations until you resent her for it; but, to love a Libra is to see that her self-sacrifice, no matter how destructive, is how she loves. Her bleeding heart is how she finds her place in a world that can be unkind; it’s the way she can claim some shred of control—she believes that kindness is what matters most.

A Libra needs you to push her toward self-care. She’ll never choose her needs first, so you’ll have to teach her this craft. You’ll need to teach her that putting her needs before others is not the same as selfishness, because she sees selfishness as ugly.

Ugliness scares her.

Loneliness too.

Her heart will break often. Her heart will feel lonely and sad about many things, but you must never be the one to break it completely.

To capture a Libra’s heart is to capture her heart forever. There are no partners more committed, more attentive than your Libra. You mustn’t ever take her for granted though; for a Libra’s heart will grow uneasy when neglected, her heart will close and you risk never finding your way in again.

Her heart knows the secret to everything. Protect it.

Sometimes she’ll feel lost. She’ll need hot tea and blankets, black-and-white movies, and no conversation. Other times, she’ll need people. Parties and midnight walks and deep, frenzied conversation—she likes literature and science and philosophy best. She likes whiskey too. To love her, you’ll need to know that.

She’ll need constant reminders that she’s a lovely being, that she’s loved—better yet, adored. She needs mindful smothering, she needs adventure. A Libra wants autonomy, but can’t stand the thought of being left alone. You must learn to accept her, even as a contradiction.

She’ll require decisiveness, as she has none of her own. She’ll surprise you with spontaneity and you’ll admire the commitment she shows to her heart’s content. But if she has time to think, any decision will be painful—be it where to eat, what to wear or who to love. This will frustrate you, but you must try understand. For her, there is no such thing as an obvious choice.

Loving a Libra means loving love itself. She loves everything about love: the connection, the discovery, the heartache, the ecstasy, the very idea of love—it’s all the same. She yearns for the safety of partnership, but she thrives on the excitement of love’s uncertainty.

She wants passion.

She can see the good in almost any person, but in a lover she requires intelligence and humor. There is nothingsexier than wit.

She hates discord, because it makes her feel vulnerable; but to love her is not to worry too much, because she believes in forgiveness and trust—enough to repair almost any injury done to her. When you fight with a Libra, she’ll be certain that every fight is the end of everything and this will destroy her a little; you must remind her that every argument is an opportunity for growth—it is the beginning of a new everything. Loving a Libra means knowing there are few things more important than make-up sex.

She loves falling in love, so to love a Libra you’ll have to fall in love time and time again. She’ll require perpetual evolution, and inspiration, and a little dose of sin.

To love a Libra you’ll need to see the good intention that she always has in her heart; to ignore this well-meaning piece of her is to deny her a personal truth. She cannot survive without this particular truth. When she’s awful, or rude, or arguing because she’s right—and she’s usually right, because she’s a Libra and it’s in her nature to be fair and just and indisputably right—you must breathe. Then trust her tears and her words to be true.

She cares too deeply to ever inflict intentional harm.

But if you witness the flash of anger in her eyes, you must let her rage. For gentle, compassionate Libra will storm fiercely in the face of injustice. You must allow her the space to be a warrior when her heart tells her it is time to fight. You must stand beside her, admire her devotion and believe in the cause—see it for what it is, a manifestation of her heart’s deepest purpose.

Believe in her and she’ll believe in you too.

She might be cast as an introvert. She might be tagged an extrovert by those who know her best. Neither matters, as long as she feels connected to what surrounds her.

When a Libra is happy, she can take over the world. She need only be equipped with the proper music, laughter and her smile.

The trick is in keeping her there; for in that moment is an ocean of contentment that only her huge heart can appreciate. If you can keep her in the moment, you can keep her forever. But the Libra mind will drift and worry. It will linger on the wrong that cut her too deeply. She will scrutinize over the words you used, or the words that went unspoken. She’ll wonder about security and what each embrace or touch or quarrel will mean in the long-term; to love a Libra, you must gently guide her back to the now again and again and again.

Libra blossoms in the joyful now.

She believes in the goodness of people, in magic and (above all else) in happily ever after.

To love a Libra, you must believe in her for everything she is.

How to Love a Girl Who Doesn’t Know How to Be Loved.

Whether we know it or not, we’ve all met some form of the typical “Miss Independent.”

Some of us know her better than others; some of us claim that title ourselves.

She’s the self-sufficient, somewhat mysterious go-getter with big dreams and an even bigger heart, though not everyone sees it at first glance.

Some might see her as cold and distant, because she needs a significant amount of alone time to keep her from feeling scattered and spread so thin that she disappears. Sure, she has family and friends with whom she loves to spend much of her time, but it’s in her nature to crave those precious hours of solitude—being only with her thoughts, completely alone in a crowd or in the vastness of a quiet scene.

Some call it antisocial; she calls it sanity.

For any or all of these reasons and then some, she’s never been the type to “fall in love.” In fact, if she has ever been in a relationship to any degree, it was likely one of the most difficult and confusing things she’s ever experienced—and she’s not usually one to be deterred.

Perhaps she’s too focused on her goals to realize that love could be knocking on her door, or she’s so comfortable with being in control that the thought of surrendering even a little bit to someone else makes her uneasy. There’s also a chance that, despite her outward confidence and undeniable potential for success, she’s extremely insecure.

Or, maybe she’s simply afraid of opening herself up enough to be loved.

Whatever the reason, it comes down to the fact that this girl probably doesn’t know how to handle the love that a suitor might want to give her. It doesn’t mean she’s a lost cause, it just means that developing any kind of relationship with her will require an approach that’s more sensitive to her guarded heart.

In an effort to offer some insight, here are a few pointers for learning how to love a girl who doesn’t know how to be loved:

1. Be patient.

Don’t expect her to feel comfortable with diving headfirst into anything even slightly resembling romance. Keep in mind, it’s probably taken her a great deal of contemplation and courage to even consider spending her time with you. And if she does appear comfortable responding to your first moves, it’s quite possible that she’s actually terrified of what you’ll think of her if she asks to slow things down. So, she just musters the strength to submit herself to the moment, only to spend all night feeling horrible about her dishonesty and inability step on the brakes. This will freak her out enough to make her sever whatever ties were made and withdraw immediately—something she’s not afraid to do.

To avoid that, let things unfold at a pace that feels natural, which might be slower than what’s considered “normal.” Remember, she’s not used to this, and too much at once will surely send her over the edge. Showing sensitivity to her pace will let her know that she doesn’t have to fear being out of control, causing a miscommunication or feeling the pressure of time.

2. Talk.

Because she spends so much of her time alone and in her head, this girl might be under the impression that her thoughts and opinions are a bit too intense for others. She rarely shares the things on her mind, as she fears that whatever’s in there is so deep and inquisitive that people will think it’s overdramatic, oddly philosophical orjust plain weird. She values deep conversation, but feels that she can exercise this pleasure with relatively few people, if any at all.

So talk with her. Let her know that she can say what’s on her mind, and don’t be afraid of her ability to dissect every possible meaning of a theory she’s been hung up on for weeks. If she apologizes for rambling about it, tell her she doesn’t need to be sorry, she doesn’t need to suppress it. Make her feel that although she is certainly unique for having such thoughts, she isn’t crazy or abnormal.

Tell her it makes her all the more beautiful.

And then, give it right back to her. Be sure to engage in her contemplations just as much as you listen; she wants to hear your thoughts more than you realize.

3. Support her.

Part of this girl’s struggle with letting herself be loved could be that she is relentlessly focused on her dreams and goals, so much so that she forgets to make room in her life for other things—like relationships. It’s not something she does intentionally, she’s just extremely determined to achieve whatever she has set out to do.

If she is forced to make a choice between a love life and her goals, she’s already chosen the latter. So don’t make her choose.

And certainly don’t make her feel guilty for not spending more of her time with you as a result—she’ll take that as another sign that she needs to sever the ties, even if they’re stronger at this point.

Instead, support her. If you really love this girl and she really loves you, then she’ll welcome the encouragement. She’ll want to support you, too. Let her; with a heart as passionate as hers, you’ll want her on your team.

4. Don’t be two halves of a whole, be two wholes that make an even greater whole.

Remember that this “Miss Independent” is just that—an independent chick with an ability to fend for herself. She might even be afraid of relying on others, no matter how much she trusts them.

Therefore, don’t think of a relationship with her as one that joins two halves together to make a whole; she won’t treat it as such, and she definitely won’t feel comfortable if you do. Rather, see it as two wholes becoming an even greater whole—two individuals who love each other enough to respect the other’s independence and uniqueness.

This includes honoring her need for alone time. She realizes that you are a person with or without her and asks that you see her in the same way. Being able to spend time apart is important to her; she doesn’t want to rely on your presence, nor does she want you to rely on hers.

Don’t try to spend every hour of every day with her unless you want her to feel so bombarded that she tailspins into a mess of tears, word vomit and utter confusion, ending with her breaking it off and swearing to never interact with another human ever again.

But when you are together, be together. Completely. Let her know she is loved until she begins to understand what that feels like, and then keep doing it. If it’s right, she’ll come around. And because she’s loyal by nature, she’ll stick around, too (so don’t give her any reason to think that you won’t).

Truly, this girl has a lot of love to give, even if she’s a bit awkward in showing it at first. She just needs time—time to figure things out for herself, to better understand how this works.

Let her figure out that deep down, she just wants to love and be loved—just like everyone else.

If she happens to let you close enough to love her, take it seriously. It means she’s trying. It means she wants to love you. And remember that helping her learn how to be loved in return is the surest way to win her heart.

Disover the truth about Coconut Oil and it's many health benifits

Coconut oil has been a common sight in Asian and Pacific households for ages, but why is it that today all over the world the health benefits of coconut oil are being rediscovered? Did you know that there was a time in history when western countries, like the US and Canada, were huge consumers of coconut oil? But what happened back then?

How Did Coconut Oil Disappear From Our Kitchen Tables

Cardiovascular diseases where skyrocketing and becoming the primary cause of mortality in the sixties. The corn and soy oil production, supported by the American Heart Association, set up a negative propaganda campaign to spread the word that coconut oil was dangerous for your body due to the high saturated fat level.

You’ve probably all been told a thousand times that saturated fats are bad for your health and lead to all sorts of diseases like high cholesterol, obesity, cardiovascular diseases and Alzheimer’s. But why is it that since then Americans who suffer from cardiovascular diseases, obesity, high cholesterol and Alzheimer’s has been rising while they made the switch to hydrogenated polyunsaturated oils?

In fact multiple studies on Pacific and Asian populations, where the intake of coconut oil is high, show nearly no cardiovascular diseases and they are in perfect health. So obviously the coconut oil is not to be blamed for the clogged arteries and other cardiovascular diseases that Americans are struggling with.
But unfortunately the poorer tropical oil industry couldn’t afford to put up a campaign against the negative propaganda supported by the rich American soy and corn industry. Competition and a lot of money from the vegetable oil industry expelled the use of coconut oil, but finally it is gaining back its popularity. And you’re about to discover why we should give it a second life.

Not All Saturated Fats Are Bad For Your Health

Coconut oil consist mostly out of lauric acid, a small medium chain saturated fatty acid or triglyceride. Lauric acid has a more neutral effect on heart health when compared with other long-chain saturated fats found in meat and dairy. Medium- chain fats are easily metabolized into energy and less likely to be stored as fat within your body.

Not all fats are “created” equally. Some occur naturally and others are man-made through a process called hydrogenation. Those fats are known as trans-fats or hydrogenated polyunsaturated fats. They should be avoid like the plague. Trans-fats have been closely associated with heart disease because they not only increase LDL or ‘bad’ cholesterol but impede the body’s ability to utilize HDL or ‘good cholesterol. Most common vegetable and seed oils contain long chain fatty acids. Those larger molecules are more difficult to breakdown and therefore stored as fat. The only benefit of those trans-fats are its food shelf life and corporate profits

Discover 9 Amazing Health Benefits Of Coconut Oil

The unique combination of fatty acids found in coconut oil have a profound positive effect on your health. And I’m the living proof… I was born with a heart rhythm disorder and high cholesterol. Since I’ve started to use coconut oil a few years ago, my cholesterol level dropped to a more normal and stable level again.

1.    Heart Health

For years people believed that coconut oil was the enemy that caused obesity, clogged arteries and many other cardiovascular disease all around America. But those claims where funded by big corporates and were never questioned!

Actually, the saturated fats in coconut oil do not harm the blood lipid profile. The medium chained fats directly go to the liver where they are metabolized for energy or turned into ketone bodies, which are transported from the liver to other tissues to produce energy. Out of my own experience, and research also proves this, fatty acids presented in coconut oil improve cholesterol levels and reduce a high blood pressure. So it actually helps to prevent heart attacks, strokes and keep arteries flexible and prevent atherosclerosis. You can find here more information how to lower cholesterol, and how to reduce high blood pressure naturally.

2.    Boost Metabolism And Burns Fat



Coconut oil is abundantly used in tropical regions where the people tend to be slim and not overweight. The fatty acids are easily digested and converted into energy, meaning they will not be stored as body fat like most other fats. And on top of that coconut oil contains fewer calories in comparison with other cooking oils and increase the metabolic rate. And one more interesting fact, the ketone bodies can have an appetite reducing effect. Find here more information about additional foods that can increase your metabolism.

3.    Boost Immune System

The saturated fats found in coconut oil contain antibacterial, anti-viral, anti-fungal and anti-parasitic properties which strengthen your immune system. Find here more information on how to boost your immune system.

4.    Boosting Your Thyroid

It is believed that polyunsaturated oils and soy are negatively interfering with your thyroid activity, causing imbalances in hormone levels. Coconut oil can help you to put your underactive thyroid gland back to action.

5.    Beneficial For Alzheimer’s And Other Neurological Diseases

The medium-chain triglycerides found in coconut oil are readily converted into fuel used by brain cells for an improved brain function. Find here additional foods and supplements to delay Alzheimer’s disease and dementia.

6.    Digestion

The medium chain fatty acids are easily digested with less strain on the pancreas and digestive system. Coconut oil has anti-microbial properties which help to fight indigestion-causing bacteria, fungi and parasites. Coconut oil can effectively be used to prevent and cure candida. Candida is the excessive and uncontrolled growth, in your stomach, of a yeast called Candida Albicans. But that’s not all! Coconut oil helps the body to adsorb vitamins, minerals and amino acids even better and improves bowel functions.

7.    Reduces Symptoms And Risks Of Diabetes

Coconut oil helps to control and improve the insulin secretion and glucose in the blood will be used more effectively. Like mentioned before, coconut oil is immediately converted into energy or ketone bodies. Ketones are a perfect alternative fuel to glucose. You can find here additional foods to control diabetes.

8.    Skin

Coconut oil even benefits your skin and is well known for its anti-aging, moisturizing and regenerative effects. Coconut oil maintains body’s antioxidant reserves whereas other oils deplete them. As a natural SPF, coconut oil protects your skin against harmful and damaging UV rays.
But the list goes on: coconut oil also helps in treating various skin problems such as eczema, psoriasis, dermatitis and many more. No wonder that coconut oil forms the base ingredient of many of our body care products. And more good news, coconut oil can safely be used for your babies and young children too. Find here more information about the best fruit oils for skin care.

9.    Hair

Coconut oil has been used in homemade and commercial shampoos for ages. It is well known for healthy hair growth, shiny looks, repair damaged hair, aids to control dandruff and in ancient medicine used as a natural lice remover.

Remember… Always opt for organic, virgin coconut oil and avoid all the refined stuff!!! And despite the many health benefits of coconut oil and although coconut is a far better option for you to choose, like many things in life, moderation is the key. This means that up to 3 tbsp. daily per adult is an appropriate dose.

How to get rid of skin bumps

Red itchy bumps on the skin are a common problem, they can be annoying and painful. This condition is known as Keratosis pilaris. These bumps can happen on any part of the skin, however the back, arms, thighs, and buttocks are some areas that are more prone to it. Statistics say that approximately half of the world population suffers from these bumps.

The exact cause of these bumps is unknown but there are certain factors that contribute to their development. Hormonal imbalances are the major cause, while humidity, clothing, and pollution can lead to these bumps. Back acne in particular happens from clogged pores. Studies have found that students who carry heavy backpacks can get bumps on their back from the pressure these bags exert. Hot and humid conditions are also a leading cause for people who work outdoors.

Its not difficult to get rid of these bumps and there are things you can do at home to help you. The first and most important thing is to wear loose-fitting clothes. Wearing loose clothing allows the skin to get some air and reduces friction between skin and clothing.

The presence of bacteria in clothing is also a cause of back bumps. Its recommended to wash clothes carefully using a quality cleansing agent.

A massage of apple cider and vinegarcan also reduce bumps. First clean your back properly and keep it dry. Place water in a bowl and mix it with vinegar in 50/50 ratio. Add cider to it and use a cotton ball to apply the mixture on the bumps, leave for 5-10 minutes. Wash it off and make sure your skin is dry before you dress.

Regular toothpaste can be effective. Place some toothpaste on your finger and apply it to the affected areas and leave for about 30 minutes until it dries. Gently wash it off with clean water, do not use soap. Repeat this process until the bumps go away completely.

Another homemade recipe for back bumps is a mixture of honey, milk, and radish seeds. Take one tablespoon each of honey, milk, and radish seeds and place them in a blender to make a smooth paste. Apply the paste to your skin and leave it for 2 hours. Wash your back with clean water and use your regular moisturizer if desired. You can preserve the paste in the refrigerator and use it daily for 5 days.

You can also wash your back frequently with a gel made with salicylic, lactic and glycol acidor use the lotions that contain them on the skin of affected areas. A polyester sponge, like a Buf-Puf, can be used to wash the back. Glycolic acid can be mixed with tea tree oil and zinc supplements to get rid of acne. Some people scratch the bumps too much which adds to their spread.

If the skin bumps do not go away after trying these home remedies visit your doctor to ensure it’s not something more serious.

        "Drugs have a power that you just can't believe"

 I just went to my cousins funeral today. He was in jail for stealing for his drugs. I just want to say that this is so sad how drugs have that deep a hold of us. Sometimes we just can't overcome that powerful voice inside of us that makes us go after that drug like others would go after their new job or position in their job. There is a powerful demon we have that others don't. It lies deep inside us waiting for that one trigger to set us off. We could be perfectly clean for years and all of a sudden it just hits us with this powerful force that we can't control. It doesn't care if we have kids, a good job, a spouse, or family. It doesn't let us think of that. It makes us selfish and we just go after it hard. 

 We have a brain that doesn't produce a lot of serotonin as well, and when your that depressed it's hard not to use that drug.  I've explained this in another blog. When your depressed all the time, this drug makes you happy because it triggers the serotonin and produces a lot of it. It hits the reward system. So, when we're without this drug, our body doesn't feel normal. We're depressed and we get anxious, bored, angry, or and our brain remembers that drug makes us happy. So, we go crazy trying to stay away but the drug just is just so powerful and will win. We know the consequences but it's not that we don't care, we care deeply about how it's effecting our lives and who it's effecting but we can't stop the urge. It takes over and so when we use, we get a blast of that serotonin that most people's brain produces enough of it, unlike ours, and we're stuck again. 

 When we stop using and we stat to withdraw, that is another major reason we can't stop. Withdraw is evil. It's a hell you don't want to experience. It's like the flu only five times that. It makes us go back to it. Your skin feels like it's on fire, you get constant chills and you get hot, your nose runs like crazy and you sneeze, your nauseated and vomit, you shake, you get diarrhea, your body feels like it's thawing out and it is.  Drugs numb you and your pain so when you stop, you feel everything plus some. Your back kills you. Withdraw is evil period. Nobody would wish that on their worst enemy. It's a constant pain and leg cramps that make you want to punch your skin. Drugs are no joke. Their evil itself. I've been through it several times. One time really bad for 2 weeks straight. 

 Addicts may be weak at not being able to say no to their drug, but we are very strong willed and go through a lot of pain and suffering. We go through a lot of heartache that most people would kill their self for. As an addict myself, I have judged other addicts by saying well, I would never do that in front of my kids or sell their food because I never did that. I didn't allow harm to come to them but it still took me from spending more time with them because the pills I was taking would make me sleepy. I'd have to take a nap. On top of that, having Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome also made me sleepy. I only took maybe 2-3 pills at a time when most addicts take 50 at once. I'm not saying I'm better than those that did though. I don't judge anymore because I've been where you do what you can to get you drugs. I know the desire and things it can make you do. It's sad that addicts get judged and it's just like someone who has cancer or heart disease. It's a chronic illness and so is addiction. They did MRI's on addicts and it shows our brains are different from those who aren't addicts. I'm not trying to glorify being an addict at all. I'm just expressing my opinion and facts on what I learned about addiction. Plus being an addict myself for over seventeen years. There are only two results of the addicts life, jail or you die if we don't stop. There is help but we need support from our family and friends not judgmental support.